Jras0001

I was talking to a buddy of mine the other day and it sort of got me to thinking. I wasnt so much as talking as I was listening. For some reason, people tell me stuff...the sort of stuff that you wouldnt exactly expect to be told. Personal problems and what not.

It started when I joined the army and was in basic and was getting to know my roommates. Also, my job in the army included talking to people and getting info (sometimes not voluntarily, haha). While deployed, I had a couple of buddies that would talk to me and ask stuff like "what do you think of that?" or "What would you do if....?"

Now that Im in college again, it keeps happening but from classmates that are a bit younger than me. I dont mind it at all but it got me to thinking and wondering why people talked to me about stuff like that as much and if it happened to everyone else.

Well, when I asked my buddy why, he said it was because I listened and gave good advice whether or not it was what the person wanted to hear.

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Now that I got a bit of background out of the way, I thought try something and see how it turned out.

Now, to that affect:

The Doctor is in! If you need advice or want to ask an opinion, Im here to help. Here's the way it will work (if everyone actually doesnt think Im now a retard and asks a question ) --

If you have a question, a problem, want an opinion, or want some impartial and honest advice then simply send my a PM with your question or problem. What I will do is remove your name and copy just the question into the thread here followed by my response. There are a couple of reasons for this:

1 - Ive found that a lot of people that have questions never ask them. Many times when someone asks something, it answers the question for other people that hear the answer.

2 - Its entertaining and sometimes funny but mostly helpful to other people who read the questions and then the answers. Like I mentioned earlier, it just might answer a question they also have.

The only way you will be identified is if you identify yourself in the thread here as the person who asked the question.

Now, I dont expect a ton of questions so I should be able to get to them all (if there are any at all). For some reason that there are a lot of questions, then Ill pick a few and answer them each day.

Now, who needs help first?

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Jras0001

Lots of view but no takers? Anyone to get us started off?

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AikaImmortal

Mine are way too deep and/or personal

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Jras0001

Haha, no worries...I can only do so much anyway...not a miracle worker.

As to the personal thing, thats why Id take the names out of the pms.

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MTKrav911

I have this 20 year old meter maid that keeps coming on to me. She's cute. REAL cute. I'm separated and have been fairly active dating and all have gone well with some very nice ladies both younger and older +/- 6 years but never 13 years.

Should I pursue a woman 13 years my junior?

I'm torn. Because we get along great professionally, but her demeanor is of such as she'd like to hang out with me off the clock. I'm very adamant about on the job courting being discreet because professionalism is something I takve very seriously and why I've gotten to where I have at a relatively young age. But she seems like she just wants to party a couple of times. She gives off a very strong non-verbal vibe like "Just ask me out" and when I shy away she seems disappointed. But she doesent give up which is why I'm asking I guess.

Suggestions?

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Curly

I have a suggestion for you Krav-- buy some whip cream and a few items from the produce department and take her out and have at it. Thats what I would do.

vegas mma

krav does this lady have a fiscus tree?

is the age the main thing keeping you from doing it or is it cause you kinda work together?
13 years younger then me is jail bait and even if it was legal it's way too young for me, but if she is 20 then she is old enough to make decisions.
over all i say go for it, but be a gentleman. you might end up having alot in common or maybe just end up as friends. either way having someone to hang out with after work is better then sitting home alone

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Dr.Chicago

Well if you allow me..

Since you are available.. You both get along with each other.. She's really in to you..

I see no reason why you don't ask her for a date.. Go out with her few time.. You may like her much more or much less, who knows?

How can you know if you don't do it!

I respect your opinion about not to go out with a person working for you!

But I say go for it my friend!

Maybe Jras has another opinion?

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MTKrav911

Dude it's not jail bait once you're legal and she's two years over the legal age.

1 year under drinking age. Or in her case 4 months

Yes, the age sorta bothers me, as does the fact that we work together on and off. She gives me tickets that some officers wrote off in a BS manner. That's my job. Following up on potential officer BS.

So I see her about 2 times a week for about 20 minutes each time. But if I were to be a dick, I could keep her around for hours just scrutinizing everything she wrote and tickets she collected from other officers/meter maids. She' nice. Really nice. I don't feel she's malicious in any way, nor do I think she's some whore getting her rocks off on screwing with a younger detective.

But, I dont know. There's something about her also (maybe it's her age) I dunno, that kinda makes me say STOP or not necessarily STOP but at minimum SPEED BUMP GO SLOW (sorry she has a nice rack)

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Curly

Ok vegas, the fiscus tree thing was funny but the friends thing blows... Krav, follow my advise and show her that you are the man!!

vegas mma

krav i know she is not jail bait. i'm saying that 13 years younger then me is jail bait.

oh and curly sometimes it's good to be friends with chicks. women make great wingmen.
if i go to a club/bar with my guy friends, i hang out with them all night.
if i go with my wife i get women coming up to me all night. even if she is standing right with me.
women want what they can't have, so you with another girl makes them want you more.

oh and i probably should not say "women coming up to me all night" i think a couple women coming up to me would be more honest

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Jras0001

Well, you have somewhat of a complicated matter. I think it would help a lot if we assess the situation in a logical manner first.

1 - Do you see yourself trying to get back with your wife? If yes, then this may very well hamper those efforts and you need to ask yourself if this potential relationship is worth the hassle. If no...go to #2.

2 - With your job and what you described, you seem to have a position of authority over this woman. If that is the case, would you be allowed to have a relationship with her by department rules / regulations? If no: you need to evaluate what risk to your job it could be and if its worth the hassle to you. If yes: go to #3.

3 - Other than the age, is there anything else that is making you question whether or not you should persue this possible relationship? If yes: Then you should be honest with yourself and resolve those reservations, whether they be big or small points. If no: Then you need to really ask if age is that much of a problem. You said yourself that shes only 4 months from 21 and is more than 2 years over legal age. This isnt much of a problem to some but to others it can be.


Now that you've read the above and hopefully figure out the answers, this is what Id say:

First off, what do YOU want to do? That should be the important thing to consider here. What is going to make you the happiest? Find that and persue it as best you can. If you get along with this girl and she has shown that she'd like to spend time with you, what could it hurt? It could probably end up helping a lot. Never overlook the benifits of companionship with someone you actually enjoy hanging out with. It can turn things you simply enjoy doing into things you almost can't do without.

Ask yourself what YOU want and then work towards that. Whether its this possible relationship with the metermaid or in other directions. Either way, (and this is me guessing here) its probably past time for you to see to your happieness and wellbeing instead of those of people around you.

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Jras0001

If anyone wants to ask a questions / advice, just PM the question to me and Ill take out the names and put the question followed by my answer in the thread as I get them. That way the person can also get advice from others that read the post and know that its completely impartial since they dont know who asked the question.

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Bull

Hey, I have a question.
This is Monica,Bull's hot, 18 year-old, Latina girlfriend. Use his account, hope nobody minds.
The thing with him is, he comes too fast (I think) when having intercourse. Do you think I should gain sixty or seventy pounds so I am less attractive and he less aroused when getting it on with me? Please help.

Dr.Chicago

No Monica, this isn't the answer!

I think your boyfriend must stop playing with himself! That will do!

And by the way, PM me when you are alone so we can discuss some stuff further!

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vegas mma

well actually playing with your self can help prolong your sex.

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Jras0001

You should cut him off for about...hmmm....six months or so...that will "help" him. As for the weight gain....NO, absolutely not. If things dont work out, then you can still move on to someone else a little less inadequate in the bed as Bull seems to be without having to lose 55 pounds of ass.


Now, for Bull's second problem...letting other people use his account that has admin privlages:

Demote Bull to regular member for a few months to show how important it is to not let people use his account.

Finally, for Bull's third problem: Lack of humor:

If this is the best you could do Bull, just go to the hardware store and buy a section of rope and a step ladder.

Hope I was able to help you out "Monica".....

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Bull

J, you are one funny dude. Thanks, you made my day.

Jras0001

I do my best...just hope I was able to help in some small way...





Now who else needs a prescription for extra-strength help from Doctor Jras?

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MTKrav911

LOL Bull. You're defiitely something when you do post.

Thaks for the the advice fellas we had lunch today and it was "Just Lunch".


We of course did it away from the office and there's no reg that says I can't date her because she is not under my direct supervision. Her work though can be audited by me. So. I had the tuna, she had the Chicken Caesar Salad and come to find out she's a big MMA fan and loves Mike Swick.

I am now proceeding to look for an engagement ring!



LOL

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