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Originally Posted by MTKrav911
I have this 20 year old meter maid that keeps coming on to me. She's cute. REAL cute. I'm separated and have been fairly active dating and all have gone well with some very nice ladies both younger and older +/- 6 years but never 13 years.
Should I pursue a woman 13 years my junior?
I'm torn. Because we get along great professionally, but her demeanor is of such as she'd like to hang out with me off the clock. I'm very adamant about on the job courting being discreet because professionalism is something I takve very seriously and why I've gotten to where I have at a relatively young age. But she seems like she just wants to party a couple of times. She gives off a very strong non-verbal vibe like "Just ask me out" and when I shy away she seems disappointed. But she doesent give up which is why I'm asking I guess.
Suggestions?
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Well, you have somewhat of a complicated matter. I think it would help a lot if we assess the situation in a logical manner first.
1 - Do you see yourself trying to get back with your wife?
If yes, then this may very well hamper those efforts and you need to ask yourself if this potential relationship is worth the hassle.
If no...go to #2.
2 - With your job and what you described, you seem to have a position of authority over this woman. If that is the case, would you be allowed to have a relationship with her by department rules / regulations?
If no: you need to evaluate what risk to your job it could be and if its worth the hassle to you.
If yes: go to #3.
3 - Other than the age, is there anything else that is making you question whether or not you should persue this possible relationship?
If yes: Then you should be honest with yourself and resolve those reservations, whether they be big or small points.
If no: Then you need to really ask if age is that much of a problem. You said yourself that shes only 4 months from 21 and is more than 2 years over legal age. This isnt much of a problem to some but to others it can be.
Now that you've read the above and hopefully figure out the answers, this is what Id say:
First off, what do
YOU want to do? That should be the important thing to consider here. What is going to make you the happiest? Find that and persue it as best you can. If you get along with this girl and she has shown that she'd like to spend time with you, what could it hurt? It could probably end up helping a lot. Never overlook the benifits of companionship with someone you actually enjoy hanging out with. It can turn things you simply enjoy doing into things you almost can't do without.
Ask yourself what
YOU want and then work towards that. Whether its this possible relationship with the metermaid or in other directions. Either way, (and this is me guessing here) its probably past time for you to see to
your happieness and wellbeing instead of those of people around you.